What is constantly reinforced to me by the Birthlight family, and many other incredible women who have shared their experiences and skills with me over the years is this: Pregnancy SHOULD be full of these truly nourishing and joyful moments. It is something to be basked in and deeply enjoyed. ‘Il faut en profiter,’ as the french so often say (roughly meaning ‘you must make the most of it’) – the French are, after all, our species emblem of making the most of life - and cheese – and especially garlic.
As I so often say to the mums I work with: Pregnancy is a unique miracle. Your body is doing something completely unparalleled and formidable– it is building an entire new human being. You may only ever get this one chance, one experience of being pregnant – take time to completely marvel in it!
There are so many things that one can potentially worry about in pregnancy (as in life in general) and yet there is SO MUCH to be relished and enjoyed. Take time to feel. To absolutely experience every luscious element of it. Take time to nourish yourself; your body and your mind - and your heart - because right now you are doing something truly excellent.
Even if you never did anything like this in your life before – this is your chance. Try Yoga, Try meditation, Try swimming, Try singing– do it now. Pregnancy is every woman’s unrivalled opportunity for personal growth.
The heart of mindful birthing
Ultimately you have 2 choices – you can choose to worry about everything or marvel at everything…or a varying concoction of the two. But every moment of worry is a missed opportunity of marvel. Just like I teach in mindful birthing techniques: be curious, explore...As with labour contractions (or surges as we call them in hypnobirthing): YOU can decide to see surges as something negative and painful, to be avoided - or you can accept them, welcome them, appreciate them, even thank them - as an inevitable and useful part of the process: surges are your body’s way of helping your cervix to open, and bringing you baby closer towards you…
Only you can manage this mindset. Only you can make these changes.
And so many women do meet this opportunity with open arms, and an open heart. And incredible things happen...
Suggested techniques : As part of my hypnobirthing /mindful birth preparation techniques I often use visualisations of waves - rising and falling, waterfalls and water sounds to aid meditation and relaxation. If you are someone who finds water especially soothing and free-ing then try incorporating them into your practice!
Peter renner also has a wonderful mindfull breathing mp3 using wave visualisations (available for free!) here:
You can find out more about Perrine and her wonderful classes here:
Find out more about ‘Le Source:’ centre de perinatalite et de la femme here: (located in Asnière sur seine - a 10 mins direct train ride from Gare St Lazarre)
Find out more about Birthlight and find classes with registered birthlight teachers here